Another thing to note is that Chrysler products have tended to use very special oil in their transmission cases in the past. Be careful with the mini vans. Our old Dodge van was a dog compared to our Honda that replaced it.
We have a Honda Odyssey (3500 pnd capacity) and we got the hitch from the dealership. It was pricey but personally I like the way that the OEM trailer hitch looks over an aftermarket. The Honda dealership said that they recommend the trans cooler if you are towing anything more than a bike rack. They could have been jacking me but the cooler is good insurance.